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We expect people to behave fairly, rationally and normally in their interactions with us. Not an unreasonable expectation considering that we would do just that in our interactions with them. But does that happen? Nah, not at all! How many times have you been let down by colleagues, friends, neighbours and relatives? Way too many times.
You will notice that people you have done favours to, made sacrifices for and helped them in every which way will be never grateful, but may in all likelihood resent you and behave in the most treacherous manner with you. Then there will be a whole horde of people who are both selfish and incompetent-people who would be lost, without your help, but would never realize how much they owe you, leave alone be grateful for what you have done for them.
You will find that the most talented, capable, competent and efficient people will not necessarily progress the most in life. There is no automatic reward for being the best or better than others. Luck plays a huge part in how much people realize their potential. It would be unnatural to not feel bad about such things. But you cannot let the resultant negativity cloud your judgment and veer you off the path that you know is the right one for you and the world.
If you and others like you did not go about performing your duties the right way, the idiots of the world would burn down the world-make no mistake about it. You may feel like Atlas shouldering the weight of the world, but that’s alright-somebody has to do it. Never mind that there are ill mannered people who don’t always pay the price for their boorish behavior, or half-crazy nit wits who drive on the wrong side of the road and never get fined, while you are penalized if you inadvertently jump a mal-functioning traffic light.
You should not be surprised if someone else runs away with the credit for a job well done by you, but remember to not be taken for a ride by that person the next time. The people around you might appear to be nothing but confidence tricksters who seem to surge ahead with their glib talk, but remember that they can get found out and when they do, it won’t be pretty for them. For they may be able to fool some of the people, some of the time, but they won’t be able to fool all the people all the time.
Don’t envy the fool who gets ahead on account of ingratitude, or the idiot who surges ahead of traffic by breaking rules. They will not always be able to ride their luck to success, but will sooner or later get into big trouble. Let them be and leave them to their own devices while you focus on dong what is right for you.
It is not easy to be calm, collected and equanimous when people around you are so boorish, loud and loutish in their behavior. It is even more difficult to stay calm when what should have been perfectly decent and respectable people lie like common criminals and don’t do the decent thing like any well brought up people are expected to. Don’t remonstrate with such people because they can fall to any depths and would win any argument because reason, logic and truthfulness don’t mean anything to them. They don’t have a moral compass at all.
The best thing for you to do is to completely be oblivious to the very existence of such people. They will in all likelihood get into trouble sooner or later either with someone who is more depraved than them or when they run out of people who can stand the sight of their dishonest selves. But you should not waste any time waiting for them to get their comeuppance.
You should instead be busy doing whatever is of top priority for you-something that takes you closer to your goals in life. Remember our time in this world is limited, you just can’t afford to waste even a second thinking about how someone has wronged you or how that person needs to be taken to task for that. Every living moment should be spent in doing what serves your best interest. If you are an upright person who progresses in life the right way then that is what you should focus on. Let the others do what they think is right for them and live with the consequences.
Like a surfer who manages to stand upright on the surf board for as long as he or she can by managing the waves coming at them and not fighting them-so should you hang on to your purpose in life even if the idiots of the world who cross your path try to veer you off course.